Being single - 2007/02/23 23:11I think being single is ok as you are free to do what you want to do.
I think also being single can be lonely sometimes.
I am still looking for the right woman who doesnt judge a book by the cover
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Re:Being single - 2007/05/30 21:50Dear Karl. Let me not to agree with you. To be single is absolutely not the same to be alone. In my view. Yeah, I'm single. I've no either husband or boyfriend. But it doesn't mean I'm alone. No way! I've many friends. I've many takings. I'm very sociable. And I absolutely don't feel myself alone! All the best Julia.
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Re:Can you be lonely with many mates - 2007/05/31 23:44I still think you can be lonely with many friends especially when your friends are in couples?!?!
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Re:Lots of single men - 2007/06/01 21:33All your friends are single men, you must be in heaven. I wish all my women friends were single
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Re:Lots of single men - 2007/06/15 23:13I get what you’re saying Karl. As active and social as one might be, it is still not like having the love and emotional connection with a partner. I don’t think anybody really wants to be alone – no matter how fulfilled their life is.
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Re:being single - 2007/06/16 03:56you are exactly right, does anyone else feel the same way?
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I am single, I have very few friends, I would consider myself to be lonely, but I try for it not to effect my life, I go on with things as best as I can. Lonilness is quite hard to understand & to comprehend at times, for people who have a lot of company around them.
They dont notice being lonely as much. There are people who have loads of people in their lives, which they can be lonely. Like the saying you can be lonely in a room of 100 people.
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Re:being single - 2007/06/22 02:41I agree, I guess being lonely is relative term. One can be surrounded by family and friends and still be lonely. Lonely or not I still think that people are looking for love.
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Re:being single - 2007/07/18 17:02[img] the worse part of being single having been married for 19 years then your wife runs off with a so called "friend " of yours (probably the reason i had my stroke!)at the age of 52 not easy starting again!!!!especially when stuck inside most of the time:
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Re:being single - 2007/07/24 10:42I’m sorry that happened to you. It must have been extremely painful.
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Re:Being single - 2007/09/20 14:17Good luck Karl, and don't ever go to USA. In America, everybody judges each other by the way he/she looks. "you are what you look on the outside" as far as the Americans are concern. That is one major reason I am immigrating out of there.
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Re:Being single - 2007/10/07 18:29There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. You can be in a crowd of people at Grand Central Station and still feel lonely. You might use the word alone when you describe the situation: "I feel so alone." However, you're in Grand Central freaking Station. You're not alone. You're lonely. Maybe your job sent you on a trip to a foreign country. You're in a comfortable hotel, and just down stairs there's a lobby and a bar and a restaurant.. Maybe you're in a major metropolitan area. A real tourist trap with hundreds of thousands of people within spitting distance from your window. However, your spouse and your kids and your family and your friends and everyone you hold dear is on the other side of the ocean, or maybe the whole planet. You might be alone in your hotel room, but you're not alone in the world. You may however, feel lonely.
You can also be the only person in your house, and you haven't been with anyone notable for awhile and you don't plan to be with anyone notable for the forseeable future. Maybe it doesn't bother you. Maybe you meant for this to happen. Maybe you need to work on a project of some sort and need no distractions so you can concentrate. Maybe you're going to write that novel you've been meaning to write all your life. Maybe you need to do your taxes. Doesn't matter. The point is, you're alone and it doesn't bother you at all. You chose to be alone. You're comfortable with yourself and who you are. You're alone but you're not lonely.
It's uncomfortable to be lonely, but if you're not alone you can usually do something about it. If you're alone but not lonely, there's no problem at all, is there? The thing to avoid is being alone and lonely at the same time. That is perhaps the greatest trap to anything living.
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Re:Being single - 2007/10/16 06:31I suppose being alone and being lonely comes and goes. When you have things to do you tend not to notice so much how alone you maybe. Sometimes if something good happens, or bad and you only want to tell someone maybe the special someone and you are alone then it can hit home. Sometimes i feel lonely sometimes i don't i would rather have someone in my life i get on with then be with someone just because i'm lonely.[/color]
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Re:Being single - 2007/10/16 08:20Good point, Demeter. I am often alone, but I rarely feel lonely. It really depends on the person.
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Re:Being single - 2007/10/21 08:22i truly believe that men dislike being single less than women. That's sad for women.
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Re:Being single - 2007/10/22 23:01In fact, says DePaulo, "many single women are living lives of secret contentment."
Myth #2 Single women are lonely.
Reality: Everyone is lonely sometimes—even married people. But most single women (as well as women with spouses) actually enjoy their solitude.
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Re:Being single - 2007/10/24 07:23you misunderstood my last post, demon.......sheece........do i write that ineffectively?
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Re:Being single - 2007/10/28 18:51.......married....cohabiting ....single.....????
.......being lonely comes from within the person
.......i feel lonely on those days when i feel good and able to get out to some function or other, but want to share it with someone else, but all those close to me have something else on.....sometimes i dont like doing things just me , myself and i..
....xx suzan xx....
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Re:Being single - 2007/10/29 10:29no it's not easy being single i'm still looking for a nice guy who is not shallow stuck on themselves because i'm not
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Re:being single - 2007/12/31 15:09hang in there stevey. shes not worth it.i know what you mean about being stuckk inside.where do you live.
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Re:being single - 2008/01/03 21:50i live in ENGLAND WHICH in itself is frustrating as i would like to have had a face to face chat with you
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Re:Being single - 2008/01/23 00:27your right gary married 3 times was very lonely. worse time in my life.loving being single.
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Re:Being single - 2008/04/03 20:02well a bigger bummer is being widowed - i was a dedicated singleton till i met the woman of my dreams and then lost her to cancer after only 4.5 years - so now am "single " again and hating every Minuit of it - add to that being older and disabled and social life is somewhat non existent - and so called friends .............. phaaaaaaa
so if you have some one or even some real friends - treasure them - for they are worth more than all the riches of the world
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Re:Being single - 2009/10/13 01:12You all have good points but I 100% agree with karl.
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Re:Being single - 2009/10/18 21:29I've been single after a very bad thing happen to any one. So I might I've seen one guy since then but being single isn't to back til you meet rhe right guy. I just don't know if I'll ever meet that guy again!
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Re:Being single - 2010/01/05 11:57even tho ive got 24hr support i still feel lonely esp wen i went to my sisters 4 xmas where there was my sister and hubby and mum and dad im the odd one out lucybell
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Re:Being single - 2010/02/03 21:11I ended a very flawed marriage 18 months ago. I am not generally lonely and am quite happy with my life. BUT I enjoy theater and that is not something to do alone. I also would like to get dressed up and go out for a special meal. Being honest I also miss that special time once the children have gone to bed and sharing a cuddle or little bits of news from the day.
I would like a special person in my life but I now enjoy my independence and self reliance so much I doubt I want a live in partner again.
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Re:Being single - 2010/02/15 16:02Today I find myself single after recently ending a long distance relationship. The good side is the feeling of freedom and independence and getting to know people again including myself. But there are feelings of loneliness. They do pass but i think we all get hungry for conversation and cuddles. Paralyzed I feel closer to disabled women or women who are involved in the disabled community. Seems to always be when the times right a woman will come into my life so just living in the day right now working on my Harley. [img size=1290]http://www.ablehere.com/components/com_joomlaboard/uploaded/images/bikesidecar2.jpg[/img]
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Re:Being single - 2010/04/06 21:07Only ever known being single, THAT sucks! It doesn't get better with time like most things either, just gets worse and worse. You watch your friends go through their relationships, marry, have kids, grow as people. For some people like me that can lead to disconnects and before you know it you're venting on forums such as these
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the worse part of being single having been married for 19 years then your wife runs off with a so called "friend " of yours (probably the reason i had my stroke!)at the age of 52 not easy starting again!!!!especially when stuck inside most of the time:
