No help here? - 2008/08/17 16:25I often post but never get any support on this thread. Shame as it says mental health and theres no one ever looking at it. You must all be spankin happy or it,s an ignored thread now.........
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ducky
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Re:No help here? - 2008/08/17 20:05I have not ignored this section It is as scott-1984 said it is hard for some of us to reply and talk about depression and mental brake downs. I have been there twice. the confusion bewilderment pain hatred and everything felt at that time was a nightmare. I am crying as I write this. my mind just want's to flee from the memmories..
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Re:No help here? - 2008/08/17 22:24I dont ignore the fact of depression or mental illness its just a hard subject to talk about at times as I have in the past faced it to and went though a stage of self harmin when I hit an all time low and still some times feel really down and feel these no way out. I grow up bein told I was bein silly about the way I felt and started to fell that people didnt care or understand so I tend to keep my feelin to myself. All we can do is support each other though those times and just let people no we are there for them always. As i am always there for anyone that needs it.
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Re:No help here? - 2008/08/18 09:59We all get depressed at times, and we all have different ways of dealing with it.
Mine is to laugh it off. which is why I come here, to meet others for a chinwag and a giggle.
Mental health has always been to me (and please don't denigrate it) something which was never spoke about, never acknowledged. If someone was depressed or had some other kind of mental disability, they were (depending on the grading), just having a "down day". We were taught to "snap out of it", stiffen that upper lip, etc (you've heard them all beofre, surely).
So it's not something I really understand. So if I'm feeling a bit down, I put a notice on my front door saying "have you forgotten your smile today?" which i see before I got out.
Quite often these days tho, I have to admit, what with the Cancer and all, I quite often have a smile on my face, and I give the air of "everything's ok", when inside I'm breaking up. But I wait til I get into the confines of my home before I cry.
There are some who can get thru this shell I've made for myself, but not many, and those that have bothered to make the effort to find the "real" me, are the friends I keep for years.
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Re:No help here? - 2008/08/27 18:55Seems i managed to upset everyone... Im really sorry ok. I guess i was looking for someone/anyone to talk to and no one seemed to be here for a long time. I dont denigrate anyones problems as half the reason im jumpy i was always told the same. Sort yourself out an stop bein selfish. I find talking so flipping hard too. I never meant to make anyone feel like i was trying to put them down oe be a bitch ok an if i did im sorry. Im crap at opening up and if i do a little i tend to feel like i did something wrong. Christ i seem to be making some mistakes on this site dont i? Think i spend to much time on my own maybe. My heads in a hole now and im struggling to get out so if im rambling im sorry but im trying to be sorry while i feel like i wanna drop off the planet lol? X Im going for now i hope someone here understands.... im no sure i do.... i hate being me right now but i know it goes away just how long this time.
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Re:No help here? - 2008/08/27 19:08hey lady m we have all been there and understand and u havent upset us or at least me anyway it just like u we find it hard to open up at times and explain how we feel but am always there for a friend in need so please feel free to message me at any time and i just hope i can help u.
i really understand u when u said u get told to sort urself out or stop bein selfish. i get the same and feel that no one will understand. i dont wish the feelin on anyone and if there is anyway i can help i will. i hope u feel better soon and if not remember am always here to talk
love emma x
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Re:No help here? - 2008/08/27 20:22Cat you have not upset ppl.. members read what you say and take it on board .. there are some who find it hard to talk about certain things..othere.s who are to shy too write in the forum.. and some who might want to but are afraid they might say the wrong thing and upset the person xxxx .
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Re:No help here? - 2008/08/28 10:30Oh well im pegged as motormouth that usually DOES say the wrong thing. Iv ended up kind of defensive over the years ducky and it makes me a bit harsh sometimes. Thank you both for being there and i promise to be more diplomatic and less defensive in future. Thanks for what you said Emma it is nice to know your not alone sometimes. HUG xxx
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Re:No help here? - 2008/08/28 12:04u never alone ... we are all friends here and we are here to help each other. and just been urself and say whats on ur mind its what makes u who u are.....a great person thats honest.
take care hun emma x
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Re:No help here? - 2008/08/28 14:06Cat you are only putting down your feelings..trying to sort out all the diffrent emotions that surface..I and other members have expressed how we feel and put are own oppions in some of the debates,,that is what the forum is for.I hope no one feels as if they are on there own here..even if we cant help members we can listen and try to support them..big hugxx ducky
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Re:No help here? - 2008/08/30 06:32Well in all honesty i could not ask for a nicer group of ppeople to have met ducky. You made me feel very welcome from day one and also gave me the allowance to mess up occasionally without judging me or making me feel i would have to leave . Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I hope i get to return the favour and be able to support or help you in someway. Obviously i dont want you to be upset etc but i will always be here should you or emma or anybody on AH need a friend. HUG
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Re:No help here? - 2008/11/28 17:49Wow!..I am new to this site and just scanning all the subjects on offer but what you say Cheeky brought back memories of a 8 month experence chatting to a young lady who went or was going through a self harm period ( knife cutting ) and she told me once that whilst chatting to me online she seems to be ok since she was actively chatting, hence stopped her feeling lonely and forgotten since I was there recognising her as a person..but alas,, as for the outcome, she moved on and I lost all trace of her.. Pleased you overcome that period though.
John
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